Eating out while I am in weight loss mode is pretty stressful for me. If we go somewhere that I can look up the calorie content online ahead of time then I don’t worry about it, I know I will make a good choice. It is when we go to those fun local restaurants that don’t have the nutritional information. I know that restaurant meals have lots of hidden calories. I have often tried to estimate calories but have been very wrong because I never imagined how much butter they actually used or that they added sugar to something. Anyway, on Tuesday night I went out to dinner with a friend. It was the first meal out I have eaten in the last few weeks. She picked the restaurant. Technically there should be something I can eat at every restaurant even though it may sometimes only be a salad with a lighter dressing on the side. When I got there I looked at the menu and there were many things that were almost healthy, and will a few changes I knew I could have a great meal. When the waitress came to the table she asked for our order. I smiled and said, I know I am about to be a big pain, sorry! I want to order the grilled chicken sandwich with a few changes please. She immediately rolled her eyes. I was not expecting that. I have gotten annoyed reactions in the past but usually if I preface it with an apology they are a little more gracious. This was exactly the reaction that made me nervous to custom order my food. As I read of to her what I wanted I also got a heavy sigh with the eye roll. Nice!
I ordered the grilled chicken sandwich with a wheat roll instead of white, no mayo, no bacon, no cheese, with honey mustard on the side, steamed broccoli instead of fries, and a side of salsa.
I realize that was a lot of changes but they were all offered on the menu. Do thin people who special order get eye rolls too? Has this ever happened to you? Do you get dining out anxiety?
Oh man, I'm sorry that woman was so rude. What's even more dumb is that any changes you make don't affect HER, it's a change for the cook/chef. And to be honest, you were making it easier on them by wanting LESS on your sandwich!
ReplyDeleteMy husband is a new diabetic, and I've had to be very direct at places, asking about sugar, carbs, etc. We've mostly had helpful experiences, but that's not to say we always will. You just take it with a grain of salt, I guess, and know that even if that waitress does an eye-roll, you did what was best for you (and you'll probably never have to deal with her again after this interaction!).
Okay, first off she was out of line, wheatever you're ording she should be adult enough to keep her feelings to herself.
ReplyDeleteSecondly, the reason she felt the need to do the eyeroll she never should have done, probabaly had nothing to do with size. When I was in service at Disney and we had special orders all we had to do was put 'see server' on the recipt to the food section and talk to them about it. The restaurant you went to probably has a computer system in place where you have to put all the substitutions in separately at the terminal, so it takes her an extra minute. This means you would have gotton her bad attitude regardless of being fat/thin/somewhere inbetween.
It's a server's job to take orders, whatever they may be, and bring out food. If she's going to cop an attitude about it then she's in the wrong business.
She was for sure out of line, but I'm not thin, but nobody would every think anything of my size and happen to be a picky eater -- I 've had people treat me rudely because of menu changes too so I don't think that had anything to do with your size.
ReplyDeleteI think you should call and explain what happened to the manager. I bet they dont'realizer they have such rude and unfriendly staff in their restaurant which could very well be costing them business. The small local restaurants are hurting during the financial crisis and they really need every customer to stay afloat. Don't think of your complaint as just a vent, think of it as helping out a business owner.
ReplyDeleteand man you are doing so well! Way to go for eating out and keeping it healthy.